The guy-magnet perfume

I’ve been going through a perfume obsession phase where I get antsy to test new perfumes every month. This perfume isn’t necessarily my cup of tea because it is a little bit strong and dark to me, but consistently gets me the most free drinks at bars. It might be a coincidence, but guys seem to gravitate towards this scent. Maybe it’s because bars smell of strong body odor and beer, so it’s crucial for a stronger and more unique scent to draw men in.

Bath and Body Works Dark Kiss

Credit: Bath and Body Works

I picked up the mini fragrance mist of this randomly because I was getting the body lotion and body mist of Twilight Woods, and BBW happened to be having a Buy 2, Get 1 Free sale. Lucky me. This stuff was initially too strong and I couldn’t really get used to it. One night, feeling like switching things up, I decided to use this instead of my typical night out perfume, Britney Spears Fantasy.

The aroma makes you feel confident when you are out. People can smell you even though the bars reek. I got plenty of compliments from girls and guys seemed to approach me more. I wore it out a few more weekends and noticed the same thing. I usually get a few compliments for BS Fantasy, and occasionally some compliments for Victoria’s Secret Very Sexy (my other go-to), though this scent seems harder to detect in a crowded bar situation. I never get compliments for Twilight Woods when I go out; it only happens when I’m running errands during the day.

So to all the ladies out there who are trying to have fun and flirt all night, give this Dark Kiss a shot!

the glass ceiling: pierced or still intact?

 

I suspect this phenomenon applies pretty universally across all professions, but because I am immersed in the law world, I notice the pervasiveness of this problem in the legal industry.

In our perfect world fantasy, women are increasingly taking control of corporate board positions and professional rankings. We rejoice in the prospect of breaking the glass ceiling and finally being “equal” to men. If we examine things closely, we will see that this is clearly not the case. In a NYTimes editorial [nytimes.com], the statistics for law firms was cited as follows: “[i]n law firms, women make up 45 percent of associates but only 15 percent of equity partners and 6 percent of equity partners at the 200 largest firms.”

We have not arrived at a time when women are equally represented in the workplace. Of course, several reasons account for this. First and possibly most important, women with children are heavily restrained from fully participating in the workplace because they not only must juggle motherhood and full time working hours, but they must battle predisposed assumptions of their ability to even be in the workplace. “[T]hey often have to show more evidence of achievement than men” and “the median income [for women] is 74 percent of what men earn,” according to the editorial.

I don’t have the solution to the problem, because I confess that the prospect of working in a law firm jungle while raising young children is near impossible. But what if law firms and other companies are willing to facilitate things for women by allowing more flexibility in schedules? It seems tedious at first, but “[l]egal employers should understand that unless they retain a higher share of women, the profession will continue to lose talented lawyers.” The world will lose talented and strong women who would have otherwise been able to contribute to their companies.